I get that, more today than ever; whether it is the problems in your life or the happiness. I’ve been pretty alienated at work. I’m okay with that. I don’t get caught up in a lot of the high school histrionics that happens when 5 middle-aged women work together. We’re all at various stages in our life. Engaged, divorced, single, married, with kids, without, really the only thing we have in common is the name on our pay cheques. Honestly, I doubt I’d be friends with any of them if I’d met them outside of work.
I hear them come in and chat about “OMG you’ll never believe what happened … “ and it’s always a series of bad on-line dates, kids getting in trouble, getting blasted at work by one of the Sales guys, tremendous bills, etc. There’s a lot of negativity in their lives, but I believe it’s just the world reflecting the negativity back that they put out.
Example #1
TCW – She’s my BEC, I don’t know why, I think she should not get away with the majority of the shit she does get away with … I’ve never seen someone with so much rope! She was going to keep her then husband until her girls were off to University, and then give him walking papers, because that’s what made her life easiest. Well she busted him having an affair. Their marriage then fell apart and she and her daughters went off the rails hard. I get it, divorce is hard, and change is hard. She started sleeping with whoever she could find on line, the stories truly were horrific. Not surprisingly her daughters became rather promiscuous, drugs, dropping out of school, theft, stolen cars; it seemed a new low every day. One of the problems was, TCW would be screwing up ROYALLY at work and there were no repercussions, so when her daughters were failing, she’d come in and rescue them. None of them have hit bottom, because there’s always someone to catch them. Even today, TCW is dating this “nice guy” but has her “army boy” that she’s expecting an engagement ring from. She’s been seeing this army guy since her husband, but she doesn’t realize she’s just his local port. But good grief, don’t try to TELL her any of this, she knows best!
Example #2
FCW – she’s a physically beautiful woman. She’s 50 but looks late 30’s and pretty much a blonde bombshell. However either her standards are so ridiculously high, or she’s just so bitter about life, no one will ever want to be around. I introduced her to a friend of mine a couple of years ago and they developed a close friendship. I find out all sorts of stuff through this mutual friend. She hates me because in the past 5 years I’ve divorced my “seemingly perfect” husband and gone on to win awards at work, be promoted, have straight A kids who are never in trouble, find the love of my life, get remarried and have a “charmed” life. They use words like “lucky” but they don’t see all the work I put in behind the scenes. I found the love of my life by marrying my best friend. She would have taken one look at him and written him off because he’s short. I looked to what was on the inside and saw the most amazing man in the world.
It’s more than just the obvious, it’s the attitude. This morning on my way to work, I was stopped at a red light and all of a sudden I felt “BUMP”. It’s the same feeling as when you stall a manual car, the same feeling when you’re hit from behind. I truly believe that I’m Wonder Woman as my CR-V is invisible as this is the third time in 2 years that I’ve been rear ended. We pulled off to the side and the lady behind me was obviously very upset. She kept saying “I’m so sorry”. Honestly, she likely just took her foot off the brake. I couldn’t see any damage, the other two events were much more impactful. I rubbed her arm and told her it was okay, we’ll just let it go and to take it easy on herself today. She was stunned. She was ready for wrath, for anger, for blame, but instead she got kindness and forgiveness. No one was hurt, there weren’t any kids involved, and she took responsibility. Maybe she’ll pay a bit more attention in the future and prevent a bigger accident.
I jumped in my car, continued on to work and still beat my coworkers in. I hear them whining and complaining about life to each other. I’ve put on my wireless headset and decided to smile. I’m lucky … no, I’m happy. It’s a choice and I get positivity back from the Universe because of it.
It’s a choice, choose wisely.
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